In the surprising turn of events, actor Charlie Carver from MTV teen-horror series, ‘Teen Wolf’ came out as gay on January 12. After taking such a big step, he has also written about the impacts of "coming out of the closet" on his life and family. What was his twin brother Max’s reaction to this revelation?
Caption: Some funny Carver twin moments
Coming Out as Gay:
Charlie Carver and Max Carver are both known for playing the role of twin brothers in ‘Desperate Housewives,' ‘The Leftovers’ and ‘Teen Wolf.' Charlie Craver, the elder brother by just 7 minutes, took to Instagram to reveal that he is gay. He did this with series of Instagram posts under numerous heartfelt captions that couldn’t be sufficed in just one post.
Pt 1: “Be who you needed when you were younger”. About a year ago, I saw this photo while casually scrolling through my Instagram one morning. I’m not one for inspirational quotes, particularly ones attributed to “Mx Anonymous”- something mean in me rebukes the pithiness of proverbs, choosing to judge them as trite instead of possibly-generally-wise, resonant, or helpful. And in the case of the good ol’ Anonymous kind, I felt that there was something to be said for the missing context. Who wrote or said the damn words? Why? And to/for who in particular? Nonetheless, I screen-capped the picture and saved it. It struck me for some reason, finding itself likeable enough to join the ranks of the “favorites” album on my phone. I’d see it there almost daily, a small version of it next to my other “favorites”; I’d see it every time I checked into the gym, pulled up a picture of my insurance cards, my driver’s license.... Important Documents. And over the course of about-a-year, it became clear why the inspirational photo had called out to me. As a young boy, I knew I wanted to be an actor. I knew I wanted to be a lot of things! I thought I wanted to be a painter, a soccer player, a stegosaurus... But the acting thing stuck. It was around that age that I also knew, however abstractly, that I was different from some of the other boys in my grade. Over time, this abstract “knowing” grew and articulated itself through a painful gestation marked by feelings of despair and alienation, ending in a climax of saying three words out loud: “I am gay”. I said them to myself at first, to see how they felt. They rang true, and I hated myself for them. I was twelve. It would take me a few years before I could repeat them to anyone else, in the meantime turning the phrase over and over in my mouth until I felt comfortable and sure enough to let the words pour out again, this time to my family...
He further wrote how complicated it was for him to realize his sexual orientation as a teenager. Even saying “I am gay” made him hate himself a little. But he hung on until he courageously expanded this circle of truth to tell his family. He also seemed grateful to his family who were very understanding of him. He has further pointed out some essential points for any others going through the same struggle in their life.
Pt 2: For anyone who can identify with that experience (and I think we all can to some degree; saying something from a place of integrity, owning and declaring oneself), the immediate and comingling sense of relief and dread might sound familiar to you. For me, and my family, it was a precious conversation, one where I felt that I’d begun to claim myself, my life, and what felt like the beginning of a very-adult-notion of my own Authenticity. For that, and for them, I am forever grateful. *Note “Coming Out” is different for everyone. You can always Come Out to yourself. Coming Out as Gay/Bi/Trans/Non-Binary/Yourself or What-Have-You is at first a personal and private experience. If you’re ready and feel safe, then think about sharing this part of yourself with others. I recognize that I was born with an immense amount of privilege, growing up in a family where my orientation was celebrated and SAFE. If you feel like you want to Come Out, make sure first and foremost that you have a support system and will be safe. I would never encourage anyone to Come Out only to find themselves in harm’s way – a disproportionate number of Homeless American (and Global) Youth are members of the LGBTQ community who were kicked out of their families and homes out of hate and prejudice. It is a major issue in-and-of itself, and a situation not worth putting oneself at risk for. The more I adjusted to living outwardly in this truth, the better I felt. But my relationship to my sexuality soon became more complicated. The acting thing HAD stuck, and at nineteen I started working in Hollywood. It was a dream come true, one I had been striving for since boyhood. But coupled with the overwhelming sense of excitement was an equally overwhelming feeling of dread- I would “have to” bisect myself into two halves, a public and private persona, the former vigilantly monitored, censored, and sterilized of anything that could reveal how I self-identified in the latter. I had my reasons, some sound and some nonsensical. I do believe in a distinction between one’s professional life and their private one...
Love You Always:
His brother also took to Twitter to react to his brother’s confession. He kept it simple but meaningful by tweeting, “Love you always”. It is evident, how much love the twins have for each other.
Max Carver Dating Life:
Speaking of Max Carver, he is straight but taken. He is dating his co-star from ‘Teen Wolf’, Holland Roden. She previously used to date another co-star, Ian Bohen before this. But the past isn’t something they would worry about especially when they look so good together as girlfriend and boyfriend.
Besides, they are all good friends now.
Caption: Ian Bohen, Holland Roden, and Max Carver.
Max Carver was born on August 1, 1988, known for his role as Ethan in the series ‘Teen Wolf.' He has also starred in ‘The Leftovers’, and he had debuted in ‘Desperate Housewives’ with his twin brother in all 3 series. The dynamic duo will be playing as twins again in the new MTV crime drama, ‘Blooms’. They recently did a photo shoot together for Crash Fanzine in May this year.#Actor #Preston Scavo #ABC #Desperate Housewives