7 Factors That Create Relationship Problems And Their Solutions!
Relationship problems are highly complex; issues are likely to arise when two people get involved in a relationship.
Since relationship problems stem from various internal and external societal components such as age, upbringing, society, mutual expectation, class, education, background, religion, political affiliation, regionalities, and others, there aren't to-the-point solutions to tackle them.
While honest, open dialogues can solve most relationship problems, some others might be difficult to cure, which may require enormous efforts from both partners - to give and take to arrive at a common, amicable ground.
Today, we are going to talk about seven casual factors which psychologists, experts, marriage counselors point out as the factors that are likely to cause relationship problems. Likewise, we will also provide solutions to put your relationship back on track!
Lack of a healthy, two-way communication strategy might be the cause of almost all of the problems in a relationship, but it is also the most effective tool to solve your relationship woes.
Caption: A sound communication strategy, the foundation of a healthy relationship.
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There are two ways to communicate, verbally through speech and non verbally through body language. For developing and implementing a genuine problem-solving communication strategy, there must be synergy between words and actions between the partners. Words without matching body language and seriousness can fall flat when you are trying to mend your relationship.
Some of the common primary communication problems that arise in a relationship are not paying attention, interruptions from ringing telephones, distractions from children, prone to heated arguments, ego and narcissism like you versus I, blame game, and uncooperative attitude.
Elaine Fantle Shimberg, the author of Blending Families, offers several solutions to mend your broken relationship.
According to Elaine, you should try to make an appointment with your partner, preferably in a quiet weekend afternoon or in a restaurant or park, for a healthy blame-game free discussion, without telephonic interruptions and children distractions.
Your partner must also have your undivided attention, and both empathy and sympathy when you sit with your partner in such romantic location.
A healthy relationship requires a happy sex life. Sexual mismatch, expectation, awareness, education, and unfulfilled gratification can cause problems in your relationship.
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Mary Jo Fay, the author of 'Please Dear, Not Tonight,' rightly advises us against giving up on sex. In the book, she gives some potent tips to solve sexual problems.
According to Mary, you should try to plan your sex life with your partner, as it enhances anticipation, breaking from the routine and having a before-work quickie; in the kitchen, by the fire or standing up in the hallway, which all add spice to sex and desire for one another.
For a persistent sex problem, 'consulting a qualified sex therapist' is the best option, as per as the author.
Money woes can be a troublesome issue before, during or after marriage; it can also be an issue during courtship or while footing the wedding bill.
Caption: Tackle finance together, get money woes free life
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National Foundation for Credit Counseling (NFCC) recommends that couples, who have money woes, take a deep breath and have a serious conversation about finances.
According to NFCC, you can try several approaches, such as visiting money problems jointly through an honest appraisal of the current financial situation.
You can also try other approaches such as changing your lifestyle, staying within your means, timely planning for your expense budgets including contingencies for unexpected emergencies like parental care, transparent income, and expense reconciliation.
Likewise, you can also have a calm, blame-game free discussion with your partner to set some flexible long-term and short-term family goals.
4. Struggle Over Home Chores:
Struggle over home chores can be a cause of friction in a relationship, so it's is essential to share home chores.
Caption: Spend more time with each other, solve home chores problems
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Paulette Kouffman-Sherman, the author of 'Dating From the Inside Out,' says 'it's important to divide the labor at home fairly' is the main mantra to solve a problem with home chores.
According to Kouffman, you should first try to make a list of all chores and then divide the responsibilities in a fair manner to avoid resentments.
5. Not Making Your Relationship a Priority:
A relationship, like plants, needs constant nurturing to keep it from withering away. No one should take a bond for granted!
Caption: Nurture your relationship, welcome its longevity
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Karen Sherman, author of "Marriage Magic! Find It, Keep It and Make It Last," suggests:
'If you want to keep your love life going, making your relationship a focal point should not end when you say "I do."
According to Sherman, you should try to treat your relationship with the same passion and commitment you exhibited during the first dates; appreciating, complimenting, respecting, and also planning date nights on a calendar should be your top priorities. In short, you should try to keep the flame alive!
Daily conflicts are part and parcel when two people share the same roof.
Caption: Have calm discussions, resolve your daily conflicts
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To solve a conflict in a relationship, firstly, you should try to understand your partner with kindness and tolerance. New York-based psychologist Susan Silverman offers numerous solutions.
According to Silverman, you should try to conduct a calm, careful, civil discussions with your partner to resolve the conflict in hand. Likewise, you shouldn't hesitate to give a little space to your partner. Moreover, you should also learn to apologize when you are wrong and avoid winning-losing mentality.
However, some conflicts may involve highly severe issues such as infidelity, incompatibility, toxic behavior, and drinking and drug problems. Ms. Silverman's solution for such serious strifes is,
if you and your partner feel like you're starring in your own nightmare version of the movie Groundhog Day -- i.e. the same lousy situations keep repeating day after day -- it's time to break free of this toxic routine.'
People in a relationship need to be trustworthy; lack of trust is likely to cause rifts in a relationship.
Caption: Trust your partner, enjoy confident relationship
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According to Fay, you should try to develop consistency, timeliness, sensitivity, commitment, helpfulness, reliability, honesty, and fairness.
Further, you should also inform your partner about situations such as late homecoming and jealousy. Moreover, you should avoid yourself from scratching old wounds and overreacting in every minor issue. Nevertheless, you have to be a good listener if you want to tackle the problems regarding trustworthiness.
Problems do occur in a relationship, and it is not possible to wish them away. They need to be discussed and talked. Sherman says 'you both can do things to minimize marriage problems, if not avoid them altogether.', adding:
First, be realistic. Thinking your mate will meet all your needs -- and will be able to figure them out without your asking -- is a Hollywood fantasy. "Ask for what you need directly," Next, use humor -- learn to let things go and enjoy one another more.
Not all people are made equal, but with constant plodding, prodding, understanding, humor, couples can overcome the problems that threaten their relationship.
Everyone cherishes a positive relationship. People in a positive relationship with their partners naturally enjoy a life full of laughter, happiness, growth, and development. All couple should try to bring positivity into their lives.
On the other hand, it is a sad fact of life that all relationships aren't amicable and peaceful. But it is not necessary that people should resign to their fate and live an unhappy life. Sometime, you must learn to let your partner go their way.
One person's efforts are never enough to keep the broth of good relationship simmering, but being true to ourselves while understanding our partners' needs, wishes, desires, and aspirations, and helpfulness will go a long way in keeping a relationship flame burning bright.
There may be some stubborn cases, no doubt, but these can be put on the diagnostic table of a counselor, who will offer appropriate advice to steady a rocky relationship.